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Los Angeles, CA
I've been a perm girl for quite some time (my whole life to be exact) and I've recently decided to go natural. So I cut off my perm about 4 months ago and have been sporting the natural doo. However, I find that MANY people have now treated me differently. Guys no longer want to date me, co-workers are making sly comments, and even my family have had some negative things to say. I enjoy the freedom of the last 4 months but should I keep it if it's causing so many problems for me?
I congratulate you for stepping out and going natural. The world of natural hair isn't for everyone. Some people truly can not handle the pressures that come with the backlash, the prejudice, and the snide remarks. However, my advice is ALWAYS to stick it out! Why? Because the people who you NEED will stay and/or begin to walk into your life and be the largetst support structure for your hair transistion. Real men who aren't as ignorant about hair will see you for the natural beauty that you are! I won't lie to you and say that I have to deal with that portion of prejudice because in all honesty, I don't! My natural hair isn't as course a texture and so I don't receive the same amount of prejudice as many others do, yet and still, I advocate harshly for my Curly brothers and sisters who DO have courser hair and get ridiculed for it because at the end of the day, no matter the texture, Natural Hair should be celebrated and accepted as nothing LESS than absolutely gorgeous. Natural hair is BEAUTIFUL!!! With the right products and care, it can be even more fabulous than any weave or perm that one can have. My advice is to continue to rock your natural and educate yourself about natural hair so that when the remarks come, because they will, you can stand your ground with confidence in the knowledge that while your friends and family are struggling to keep their edges and pocket books together, you are flawlessly enjoying being able to go out in the rain and not worry!!! Keep it cute, keep it real and PLEASE keep it Natural!!!!
Los Angeles, CA
I have been dating this girl for a little over a year. We've talked about taking the next step and I think I'm finally ready to pop the big Q. But I'm MADD nervous as to how to ask. Any suggestions for a dude trying to lock down a his girl?
I have so many men that have this SAME questions lol, so don't feel like you're the only one. My number one advice is, know your parnter! With a year into the relationship I'm sure you have all that you need to know what would be the most special for her. Some girls like a big, grand gensture, others don't. The magic of the moment is knowing your girls character, likes and dislikes, and doing what you can to pop the question within those parameters. At the end of it all, being asked your hand in marriage by the man you want to be with is ultimately the most important thing. Congrats!!!
I'm a Gay college student who's dating a closeted peer. I'm very proud of my sexuality and who I am! It has taken quite some time to get to that point. However, I really love my boyfriend but his need for staying in the closet is starting to really bug me. Like why can't he just tell people. It's 2015!! It's not like he keeps me a secret but when it comes to his family I'm still his "friend". Needless to say I'm not brought around often! HELP!!! What is a queer to do?
I'm sure it is difficult to be an out gay man dating someone who isn't. However, I'm sure you knew, when you started dating, that he was, in fact, in the closet. The choice to move forward (considering what you were able to deal with or not) should have been made at THAT point. If the isssue of him being closested is too much for you to handle now, then I would suggest you two have a discussion about where this relationship can go. Understanding that his family structure might be too important for him to lose if, in fact, they do not approve, might be a deal breaker for the relationship. On the flip side he needs to understand that to risk losing his love is also a possible reality. How much of his closetness affects the actual relationship? The two of you need time to communicate with one another on what's possible, what's realistic and at the end of it, what's going to happen to your relationship becuase of those things. Maybe he just needs time and encouragment, maybe you need to find a new boyfriend that isn't in the closet. Whatever the decision, you guys NEED TO TALK!!!!